3. Climb the Mountain.
Updated: May 8, 2019
I started last Monday with a new determination to record a podcast and write a blog post! Now it's Monday a week later, I haven’t done anything and all I want to do is go home and hide under a big blanket of self-doubt and take what I call, a depression nap.
I have talked a lot about not giving a F$%& about what other people think and having an amazing magical why that drives you to great lengths. However, just posting about something in a blog and talking about it in an empty room in a podcast is one thing, acting on what you say is another ball game. In fact, they are pretty much different sports.
Difficulties and hardship in life are normal, and necessary. Believe it or not, the reason bad things happen to good people is relatively simple, we need to grow, we need to change. Growth is the most critical part of becoming a happy person, and you have you have difficulty to grow. There isn’t a woman or man on earth that hasn’t had their share of devastation. How you choose to react to that tragedy is what measures the growth you receive from it. The trees on the edge of the forest are the strongest because they get the most from the wind and storms that would blow over the weaker trees in the middle of the woods.
This is a little bit of a different topic from what this post is mainly about, but I felt the need to make this briefly understood before I get to the meat of the post.
Hardships and the up-hill struggle are a part of life that no one is exempt from, but that doesn’t mean we can’t be happy, and we can’t look back and have joy with the mountain we had to climb.
"I can't get no satisfaction, I can't get no satisfaction,
Cause I try and I try and I try and I try
I can't get no, I can't get no..."
With the Rolling Stones ringing in my head while I type this it becomes more and more clear that it all roots from how happy I am in a situation. What is my comfort zone, and if I’m satisfied.
I went to the desert a few weeks ago, in my own personal beliefs I pray, so I went to go pray and think about life, but also have some fun and pretend to be a cowboy for a couple of hours.
I drove an hour and a half spent two hours chopping wood for a fire, shot my shotgun at six or seven clay pigeons and then just sat there staring at a fire that wouldn't stay lit, and just stared at the fire. It was awesome, I honestly didn't have the picturesque experience or have any great realizations. I had planned on staying and camping out there and exploring the next day, but around midnight I packed up my truck and left.
On the way home I felt great, I felt totally satisfied with my little trip and went home to find that all my friends were at my house still and I arrived just as they were leaving for the night, I got to hug them all and say goodnight, it just felt great.
I was content and I was happy, I was satisfied, so how do I get that feeling about other things in my life?
When I write a blog, or when I enroll in school. Why don't I feel like I did when I went to the woods?
I feel like the answer is what you build it up to be before you start, and how much you appreciate the journey. Satisfaction comes from the journey; the relationships you make on the way and the hardships that you conquer. You should always enjoy the happiness that comes from accomplishing the goal, but lasting joy, that stuff comes from the road that took you there. So, when I left my little camp early and got home to my friends. I was really happy because I got home to find a bunch of people who care about me and were all happy to see me, but the satisfaction of the trip was the experience of struggling to build a fire, trying to figure out how to make the clay pigeon thrower work, hearing a bunch of coyotes howling and running all around me, and breaking my new axe. By the way the coyote part was cool, but you lose your nerve a little when it's dark and you're by yourself.
I feel that a lot in life, usually with things I don't want to do, we shy away from it because we don’t know what the future holds, and at the first sign of difficulty, we give up. Like going to the gym, this is a big one for a lot of people. Most days I just don't want to go. I don't want to go and have some weird people looking at me, judging my form, or maybe I am not as fit or muscular as a lot of other people there. There are millions of reasons why I shouldn't do it, but I do it anyway. It's because I know the feeling of looking in the mirror and being unhappy with what I see, compared to the joy and satisfaction I feel when months of hardship, sweat, and pain, I look in the mirror and I can see the changes. If other people can see it, who cares, what matters is that I can, but it feels amazing when you work hard, and people notice. It's one of those things that pushes you harder.
Sometimes I fall asleep thinking of all the things I don't have that I really want. I dream of traveling and, being someone, people come to for advice about life because I'm super wise. While dreaming about a better life is far from a bad thing, expecting it all to happen right away, be given to you, or trying something for the first time and being the best there ever was at it, is unrealistic, and ultimately detrimental to your life, it won’t help you.
We all have to work for what we want, we have to put in the hours and the days, even the most talented and amazing people on earth still have to practice, the smartest people in the world still had to go to school, and there are tons of stories of these people struggling with one thing or another. It's that struggle and growth that makes those people truly amazing. Imagine the satisfaction you would have knowing that you really earned everything you dreamed of. Knowing you worked, and you hated a lot of the journey, but looking back you wouldn't change a thing.
To cap this post off, I want to say that wiring blogs is difficult. Recording podcasts are difficult. Putting your self out there, staying consistent, going to the gym, doing the things that you want to do to be the person you know you were meant to be. It’s rough, you’ll slip, you’ll fall, then you’ll get back up. When you look back on your life be satisfied that you gave it your all. In the moment break it down to a day, do something today that will bring you satisfaction tomorrow.